Quiver Full Frequently Asked Questions
By admin on Feb 16, 2008 in Full Quiver
I’ve gathered fun Q&A over the years from several quiver full moms. I’m looking at this list from a different perspective today.
I would much rather have “Are they all yours?” and the questions below than the ones I’m getting now. Our eleven children range in age from 6 to 34. I had my 6 year old at 46. My health issues this year must have really aged me because in the last few months I get, “Are these your grandsons?” quite a lot.
I don’t mind looking old enough to be a grandmother. I am one 13 times over and most of them are older than 6. But I like being Mommy too…my little boys’ Mommy. Maybe I can get a “I’m his Mom not his Grandma” button. 
So enjoy the questions while you get them. At least you look like the mommy. Hey, you get asked because you have blessings!
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The #1 Question: Are they all yours?
- (My answer) I think so. Let me count, hmmmm I think there might be one missing.
- No, this is not all of them, my oldest is at home with the triplets.
- No, a couple of them started following us a few minutes ago. — This is especially funny when you look at your kids and realize that one of them really ISN’T yours — he had just started following you and you didn’t notice before…
- No, I picked up a couple extra in the produce aisle.
- Gee, I never heard that question before!
- Yes, they are! And then one of the boys will pipe up and mention the 21 yo and the 18 yo if they are not there and of course the baby on the way!
- Of course they’re all mine. Do you think I take six (or fill in your number) kids shopping for fun?
- No……….I have two more at home! (When it fits)
- Well, no, they are not all “OURS” but in our hearts they are……
- Yes, and they’re such good kids!! (the kids love that one!)
- Of course they are..wait..who is that one? Hes not ours…..oh, yeah,#5, I forgot I had him.
- Yes. But if you have any you don’t want, I’ll gladly take them, too.
- No. I’ve been an avid collector for years and just picked these up in the food court!
- Most of the time I only have my 7 youngest ones with me, so when someone asks this, I say yes and one of the younger ones will say and there are 4 more. Then we wait to see how long it takes them to add 7+4. Then you should see the looks we get.
Did you give birth to all of them?
- (My answer) I gave birth to nine then God gave me two more. But I love them all and all of their children equally.
- Yes, I gave birth to them all. Do you really believe the stork dropped them off?
- Yes, in my heart…… (for adoptive parents)
- Not all of them. We found Tommy in the cabbage patch and Melissa in the mail box. And Cheryl, where did you come from again?
You have your hands full!
- (My answer) My grandmother always said, “Many hands make light work.”
- Yes, happily so!
- Yes, and my heart too.
- Don’t say anything, just look puzzled at your hands. (This does obviously not work if you are carrying a baby)
- Yes, but I would rather have my hands full than empty!
Are you going to have more?
- (My answer) When God gives me a blessing I can’t refuse it.
- Why do you want to know?
- Well, not today.
- We are trying to get into the Guinness Book of World Records for largest family living in one house, etc.
- OH, YES! I want to have a family bigger then the one in my favorite movie, “Yours, Mine & Ours!” to beat the 19 they had!!
- Yes, I always want just one more.
- Well, we do have a twelve-passenger van.
- Check back in nine months and you’ll see for yourself.
Don’t you know what causes that?
- (My answer) Yes, it’s the super power I asked for. I bear children.
- No, please tell me!
- Smile brightly and say with enthusiasm “Yes, and we like it!”
- Well, we don’t have a TV.
- Of course, don’t you?
- Yes, we do know what causes that and we like it very much, thank you.
- Oh yes, we finally figured it out and we now keep the tooth brushes in separate glasses!
- Oh yes, I now wash my husband’s underwear separately.
- Oh yes, having a great sex life!
- Water or sex, but I don’t want to give up either.
- It’s in the water. Would you like a glass?
- Yes, and I know WHO causes it! God gave us these children!
- Yes I do……..cold winter nights………
- LOVE! An overabundance of love!!
- Yes, and it is something I am very good at…
- Of course, and the Lord has greatly blessed us!
- A strong husband/wife relationship, big hearts, and the Lord’s blessing.
Are you going to get fixed?
- (My answer) No, I am not broken!
- Why do you want to know?
- Huh, we thought everything was working fine for us!?!
- We didn’t know anything was broken.
- Don’t you only fix things that aren’t working properly?
- Well, as you can see by the size of OUR family everything is in working order.
I can’t believe how you do it, I cannot even handle my two!
- (My answer) God never gives us more than we can bear.
- I put knobs on the kids. Makes them easier to handle.
- With lots of patience, patience, patience, I go and look at them while they’re sleeping. This reminds me of what sweet children of God they are and keeps me going!
- Oh, I just do it. Wake up in the morning, do what you have to do all day, go to bed when it’s done.
- Pick your battles carefully. It helps to have selective sight and hearing!
- Don’t sweat the small stuff.
- Oh, straight jackets and handcuffs!
Are you planning to have any more?
- (My answer) We let God make those decisions. I hope so, I love babies.
- I collect children. I wonder if anyone asks Jay Leno if he’s going to buy more cars?
- I’ve been wondering about this and maybe you can explain it to me: I always thought you had to plan NOT to have more.
- Before we were married we planned on having 2, but I didn’t know that my husband couldn’t count!
- We didn’t plan the first six, I don’t think we’ll plan the next six, either.
I hope you aren’t planning to have anymore?!?
- (My answer) God has it all under control.
- You know, I think you are right – we have too many. In fact maybe I should give a few away, which one do think should go?
- Well, I kind of like children. Is that OK?
- You mean, I just figured out what I’m really, really good at, and you’re telling me to stop doing it?
- Talk to God about it… it’s up to Him.
- Well, we do have room in our van for 2 more.
- OK, I won’t plan my next one. Surprises can be fun!
- Yup, we are going to keep going till we get an ugly one.
Haven’t you heard of birth control?
- (My answer) I let God to control my births.
- Yes, and I thank God it doesn’t always work!
- Oh yes, it’s for people who don’t want children.
Don’t you have a television?
- (My answer) Yes, but the reception is horrible at night.
- Yes, but we only get X-rated channels.
- No, we have much better things to do at night!
How can you afford having so many?
- (My answer) When God supplies the lambs He supplies the pasture.
(I also like) I have a very wealthy Father (pointing up). - Lifestyles are expensive, not kids.
- I figure you spend what you make, you may as well spend it on more.
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No, their my sons. I was noticing that you look pregnant, when are you due?
Thanks Robin for linking to me! You are such a sweetie! Oh and by the way..I love the “I put knobs on the kids. Makes them easier to handle.” That is just too funny!!
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I”m 39 and I get the grandma comment with my two year old (and we’re having another baby in a couple of weeks.. guess I can expect it to keep occurring).. I dont dye my hair and I do have some gray so that’s one of my favorite answers.. Are you the grandma? “No, I”m the mom.. bet you wouldn’t ask if my hair wasn’t so gray”.. etc. People usually react w/appropriate embarrassment!
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I can’t even believe people can ask some of the more judgmental private questions like are you getting fixed. Do they think you are a dog?!?! That sounds horrible. I also have no idea how to handle the G-ma question but my daughter and I were trying to figure out the picture and I counted 11 and one adult so I thought your kids and then I realized there is NO WAY they are all too close in age. DUH. So is it Grandkids less 2?
My sister is turning 40 this month and is expecting her first child so I can only imagine she may hear that question also, although I hope not. She is 16 months older than me and my oldest will be 17 before her baby is born. I think that is God having a good sense of humor. I love that you are letting God determine what is the right number of kids. It shows a faith in knowing that God will never give you more than you can handle. We could all learn a great lesson through that.
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I’ve just started getting the grandma question with my 12 month old, and I’m pregnant with number 10 (just started showing though). I’m only 44. But some grandmas are really young!
My oldest is 17, so I won’t be a grandma for a few years yet. I bet you were a young grandma! I just get real indignant and say, “No, I’m her mommy.” Not too clever, but they do usually get embarrassed, so I get to share my pain! I usually go ahead and tell them that she’s number 9, and my oldest is 17. Then they forget all about how old I look. One comment that really bothered me was when I had my 8-year-old at the library all by herself and the librarian asked if she was mine or my grandchild. I was pretty shocked at that. I think it’s just because so many grandparents take care of their grandchildren these days instead of the parents.
Just think of it that way. It helps!
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I just turned 29, so I don’t get the grandma questions yet. I did, however, get many of those rude comments when I was pregnant with my 4th blessing last year. Four isn’t *that* many! I really resented having to defend myself. After my baby died (I carried him 15 weeks), I hope those people felt like heels.
When we travel through WalMart my most asked and hated question is, “Are you a daycare”? I get this question even more than. “Are they all yours”? Two of our many children are adopted and have a difference race than the rest. Also, my oldest is 10. I assume that is what prompts the day care question. Which leads me to wonder, “Who takes a daycare to shop for groceries”!?
Very funny post! I love your answers and other replies!
Isn’t it awful that I get some of those questions with 3 children?!!! Either people aren’t thinking before they speak or advocates of a one child only law?!!!
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I am jealous of your problem. I have wanted a dozen (give or take a few
) kids for years. My dh and I have 3 precious babies in heaven. I hope someday, I’ll have a chance to use your hilarious list.
I have 2 blessings that are 14 yrs apart, God’s timing not mine.
I have only gotten the grandma question when my DD was about 2′ish… I just turned 43.
and my oldest is about to turn 19.
In response to your question….
Maybe consider using: Well if I was older I guess I could be their grandma.
or NO, they are all mine, I started when I was 11 yrs old. (then you will really get a look)
I also have to tell you that I love one of your responses that said, Lifestyles cost a lot, kids don’t (Not sure if I have the exact statement there) But that is SO true… if people just do the basics life is so much richer in so many ways and less stressful too!
Unfortunately, after number five, we could no longer have children. I was only 27. I’ve had people scream in my face, haven’t you heard of the population explosion. I just laughed!!!! Heard of it, I saw it every day.
To people who said, “You sure have your hands full!” I would reply, “No, just my heart full.”
I loved the one about the grey hair. It was good for a good belly laugh.
I read all this to my youngest, 16 year old son. We laughed and laughed. He’s hoping he can find a wife that wants a dozen children. He gets it.
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Some women cant have children or dont meet their partners until later. You are still a married couiple with or without children and can be just as happy. This whole movmeent is turning America into a who has more kids contest. I got asked a lot about when Im going to have children Personally its no ones business and I dont control it. Any true Christian knows that and wont judge.
Are these your grandsons?
No, these are my grandson’s uncles.
My husband and I have 4 children at home and I have 1 elsewhere. People were telling me I had my hands full when I was pregnant with my 2nd. “Really?”
Often when I have my two girls with me I hear, “You’ve got your hands full.” My reply is: “This is only HALF of my FULL.”
People love to ask, “Don’t you know what causes that?” My husband responds, “Now we do…and we’re suing the doctors who didn’t tell us before now.”
When someone complains that they “couldn’t do it” or “don’t know how” I do it, I say “After two, it’s all the same.” Or “I don’t know either. Don’t think about it, just do it.”
Honestly, the WORST people I have had to deal with on the issue of having babies are the OB’s and nurse midwives (who work with OB’s). After every birth (except my home birth), I have gotten the “So, what do you want to do about birth control?’ lecture. Uh, I don’t want to “do” anything. Then I get the lecture about how doing nothing will probably result in more babies. Oh, the horror! More children!
When I was 18, unmarried and pregnant, the Planned Parenthood “counselor” asked me what I was going to do about this unplanned pregnancy. I said, “Well, I guess I’m gonna have a baby.” In my heart I was saying, “Duh!” She worked on me for 45 minutes, trying to convince me to have an abortion. Long story short, God’s mercy prevailed and a family was blessed by my gift (baby) and I was blessed through my obedience to God’s call…and the blessings have never stopped.
As a mother of 8 (at least at the time anyway) used as her online forum signature, “Not trying to overpopulate the earth, just trying to outnumber the idiots.”
I loved this list, and the sense of humor to accompany it. May God bless you and all your children!
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Well, for me I am 41. Our children range from age 24 down to 3. Our oldest has blessed us with a granddaughter, who is 1 1/2. So for me I say “no, she’s not with us today” or when she is with us “Only this one”. It’s funny the faces some people make when my 3, 4, 7 & 9 yr olds tell people “this is my neice” or “I’m uncle or auntie so and so”.
Anne-Marie- I love your forum sig; “Not trying to over-populate the earth, just trying to out number the idiots!” I love it and will be stealing it, lol. I love this list, it is so encouraging.
btw.. I am Mommy to 9 children ages 9 months up to 19 years old. I do want more but currently dealing with my fil’s words; “If you pop out more baby, you are going to send that man to an early grave!” (referring to my dh… ofcourse, dh laughed)
Andrea
proud to be a fruitful vine with children all around my table
Those were some great answers! I just kept chuckling and thinking, “I’ve got to remember that…” I’m expecting our sixth due in April.
at what age do you put the children to work, babysitting for the newborns? 3 years old? and do they get weekends and holidays off? do they have to wear uniforms? at what age do you arrange the girls’ marriages?
I heard of a family in Missouri that has 14, seven natural, seven adopted, and one day the mother had half of the kids with her and a man came up to her and said “Ma’am, have you ever heard of family planning” She politely responded, “Yes sir, and I’m halfway through my plan”!
Re: “Comment by Sarah :
When we travel through WalMart my most asked and hated question is, “Are you a daycare”? I get this question even more than. “Are they all yours”? Two of our many children are adopted and have a difference race than the rest. Also, my oldest is 10. I assume that is what prompts the day care question. Which leads me to wonder, “Who takes a daycare to shop for groceries”!?”
I have several things to say about this in response: 1]the one who takes a daycare to shop for groceries is the one who has no other helpers to leave them with; 2] just say, “yes, and a night care, too,” or 3] tell them “yes, and we’re on a buying field trip!”
As for these:
Are these your grandsons? No, these are my grandson’s uncles.
I put knobs on the kids. Makes them easier to handle.
You mean, I just figured out what I’m really, really good at, and you’re telling me to stop doing it?
I’ve been wondering about this and maybe you can explain it to me: I always thought you had to plan NOT to have more.
OK, I won’t plan my next one. Surprises can be fun!
Yup, we are going to keep going till we get an ugly one.
Oh, yes, it’s for people who don’t want children.
Those are too cute! I loved them!
For all of them I say, “Right on, Mama!”
I personally have 2 in Heaven waiting for my dh, my 15yo & 14yo girls and me. We are all looking forward to our big family reunion soon. Oh, and if anyone knows someone who has any kids that they don’t want, let me know – we’re looking for more ourselves. My girls have always wanted brothers, and I know my dh would be thrilled to have more – sons or daughters! I didn’t get married till I was 35, had my first at 37, and 2nd 15-1/2 months later, so now I’m past my prime. But we’ll take whatever comes our way otherwise.
God bless you all richly!
We only have three but we had them in under 3 years. For some reason it really seemed to bother other people if I was in the grocery store pushing two toddlers in a stroller and pulling a very full cart with an infant seat. My guess is that they whine about everything being “so difficult” and any evidence to the contrary makes them uncomfortable. One day though a woman passed me in the parking lot and said “you need a hobby” Without thinking I replied “I do have a hobby – it’s picking out baby names.” You should have seen the look on her face.
It amazes me that people think it is any of their business how many children someone else has. *coughCamilocough* So long as the kids – no matter how many or how few – are well loved and cared for, what else matters?
I have the opposite problem. I often get asked when I will give my five year old a brother or sister. I just love the awkward looks as they realize they’ve asked an extremely rude question when I reply, “Well, we’ve been trying for four years, but it doesn’t seem to be in the cards just yet.” Of course, then there’s also the occassional idiot who asks, “Is he doing it right?” Can you believe that?! I just respond, “He was doing it right the first time, I’m pretty sure he didn’t forget the basics.”
LOL I loved those! Great job. I love it when I am at church or out and about and I just gently herd the masses with my hands while talking. Then I look down in surprise when I realize I accidently added another child to the group. LOL
God bless
Heather L
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You all have been brainwashed. It is not responsible to bring 11 children into the world. It is not responsible having a woman have children when it is dangerous for the mother and produces handicapped children(which increases with age). It is not responsible getting married at a young age and to forgo college. You all have bought into silly movement created by men which has left you powerless to men. I sincerely hope that your movement withers away because it is hurting women and children they have.
RtPt,
But look how cute they are! And I really like them a lot–all eleven!
The Bible says children are a blessing. The Bible isn’t brainwashing. It is the Word of God. I am happy. I love my children. ;-D
The “movement” will not wither away. Its been around since Creation and going strong.
Your avatar looks very sad.
I think it’s great when women have large families, after all, it’s kind of how we’re designed. It’s a lot more unhealthy to interfere with your body’s natural cycles by filling it with chemicals in order to avoid [or abort] a pregnancy. Women had large families for years until the pharmaceutical corporations and employers seeking a cheap labor pool convinced us it was more “beneficial” to waste our best years at an unthankful, low-paying job, then wait and have one or two children later in life, when it is more risky, after we’ve waited for the birth control drugs to get out of our systems.
btw, I was married at age 19, still went to college, with my husbands full support, with a minor in women’s studies of all things. Real life has shown me that most things that supposedly “liberate” women are the things that are making so many of us miserable, by turning us against our inborn natures, instead of letting us find happiness where we will.
When I see a woman with a large family, I don’t think that she’s irresponsible or brainwashed or any of that drivel. I think she’s incredibly blessed to be entrusted with so many little ones to raise, and I think it’s a great thing when women take the responsibility to raise their own children, especially when they are able to avoid daycare and public school for them, in order to teach them at home.
AMEN Raine!
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As a mother who has been blessed with just one (almost) 5 year old boy, I often get the same comments about “having my hands full”. My general response to the “how do you do it” questions is “Lots of help and very little sleep” Thank you for the comments and the laughter today.
Loved these gems:
Yes, but I would rather have my hands full than empty!
Oh, I just do it. Wake up in the morning, do what you have to do all day, go to bed when it’s done.
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I have been known to ask those stupid questions not because I wanted to be rude but I was looking for biblical answers in my own life. Granted I went about all wrong and could of asked the questions better but I grew up where most woman use birth control there wasn’t a biblical reason not to. I never once asumed that a child of a “older” looking woman was her grandchild though. I am 43 now. I have many friends who are quiverful families. If they would of shared with me the scriptures they believed instead of the smartallic come backs you presented above I would of gotten this whole Christian quiverful meaning sooner.
For me it is too late. After my third live birth and 4th miscarrage the doctors recommended I have an emergancy hysterectomy due to an on going infection that would clear up. I have a lot of regrets and now wish I could take my well meaning “stupid” questions back and ask things differntly.
Question. I have had two twin pregnancies in a row although I lost one of my sons in utero the first time around.My toddler is now two years. This set of twins (identical boys) is now 8 months and we are overjoyed to hear we in our fourth month with another set of twins.(again boys but non-identical) My doctor however is not happy with the fact that my pregnancies are so close together, and that I will be tandem nursing 3 babies throughout my pregnancy.(My toddler takes a long nurse on both sides at night but is otherwise weaned) He thinks because I drop several eggs per cycle I need to be on birth control to make sure my uterus stays strong and to avoid pregnancy complications. Of course my husband and I do not believe in birth control. We also know I am extremely fertile right after childbirth. I have given birth naturally each time in order to avoid vaginal tears and trauma so we can resume our marriage
relationship within weeks of birthing. The result of going through the pain of birthing twins without drugs is that I am able to be pregnant again so soon with God given life. What should I tell my doctor? And should I be thinking of home birthing my 4th and 5th babies? Thanks
Interesting the comment of how you all are brainwashed. Considering that even having two children is considered too expensive and all the birth control pushed at women constantly, I think you have to have very strong minds to stand against the vocal majority. I started “late”, I’m 43 and my eldest is 13. We only have three children as when the youngest was born dh started calculating how old he would be when she turned 18.
No… Their mine… How many grandchildren do you have?
@Sarah… I had always heard you needed to wait x amount of months before getting pregnant again but when I joked at my 6wk postpartum visit to my ob about getting pregnant right way after my 4th…. He said go for it. Although I haven’t done it… I’ve read tandem nurse g while pregnant is safe. And lastly, I’m getting ready to have my 1st homebirth with my sixth! Not all doctors are good ones!
When we are asked if all seven of our children are ours, I say, “On days they are being good,” then I point at my dh and say,”the other days they are his!”
When its the comment about having our hands full, we say, “no just a really great lapful!”
Once I had an older gentleman walk by and say he was glad it was me and not him. I told him I was glad it was me and not him too!!
Just a comment about the folks saying we are brainwashed: so sad that these folks dont realize they are the ones that have been deceived and brainwashed.
If this is being brainwashed, though, this is the way better than the one I got in public school growing up and lots more fun!! Bring it on! Our oldest is 14 and our youngest is 21 mos. We have one baby girl on the Lord’s knee and cherish all the gifts of life that have been entrusted to us for any amount of time. I can’t imagine the future without seeing lots of grandkids around the Sunday dinner table! :O) Maybe the ones who dont want too many kids are bitter because their futures aren’t very cheerful to think about?
I would say (with a BIG smile) … Yes, they are grand, and they are my sons! =)
Are you planning to have more??
Thank you, Debbie, for sharing your comment about sharing scripture instead of “smartallic comebacks”. I was thinking the same thing as I was reading through the list. Some of the comments are so great and God-pleasing and others are horrifying. Ladies, our love for the Lord needs to shine through our every word and action. We are different, we stand out, people are watching and wondering. Are you shining His light to the dark world? We need to be sure to have a smile on our face, a gentle answer to turn away wrath, and the praises of the Lord on our lips. Don’t forget: those strangers with strange comments are our mission field. Joyful mommy of 7
I second the “No, they are my sons, but they are grand!”
To people who ask “Are they all yours?” I like the response, “Well, they really belong to God, but He was sweet enough to share them with me for awhile.”
To those who think moms of large families are brainwashed….. I can tell you from personal experience that anyone who thinks of a child as anything other than a blessing has been brainwashed. My parents could not have children and adopted my brother and me. My best friend growing up shared one room with 4 siblings (would have been 3 more, but they died). I absolutely loved going to her small house…it was overflowing with love and joy. Sadly, by the time I was grown, I fell into the “I must work and can’t afford children” lie. In between various birth control methods, We had one son. By the grace of God, 9 years later we had a daughter, followed by 4 more. My son is now away at college, and I often mourn the children that should have preceded and followed him, had I been open to God’s will. There is a definite empty space. I know in my heart there were children God loved and wanted, but my hardness of heart wiped out their very existence, along with their children and their children, etc… I am so grateful for God’s mercy to me and for the children that He has entrusted to me, despite my failings.
What if MY mother or YOUR mother had thought having me or you would be irresponsible?? I have never heard anyone say his/her own mother should not have had children.
My husband do not have any children yet but we hope to have some soon we are very interested in Quiver full . We see the blessing in having a large family and all the families that see the blessing in having a large family . Oh And I am not brain washed because my husband and I are choosing this life style .
I will have to commit to memory some of these sweet responses ladies. we have 3 blessings thus far (25 years old) and have not used chemical birthcontrol since the first was 6mos old (it causes me great pain and depression and that’s DEFINITELY NOT what God wants for any of us!) I like to think I’m getting better day by day as far as my patience. It really helps that my husband and I have been led to the Quiverfull mentality. We are judged day in and day out for our 3 children and the choice to not get “fixed”. I figure that the things that are a mystery for me now, God will reveal in time. As he has this much.
My husband is the one leading our family, but I am not uneducated. I have college back ground and I do my own reading and research, as well as prayer and contimplation about the issues our family faces. We are greatly blessed to have our 3 loving children and we want to be the greatest parents in the world (at least in their eyes!).
To those who are reading and writing snide responses I ask you, if children are so expensive do you not add in the cost of the birth control itself? Not to mention the complications from delaying children and the bodily harm they can cause? Have you read ALL that TEENY TINY print the companies have out there for you to read, but hope you never do?
I know that I am not perfect and my children aren’t perfect, they do not always act the way I would like and yes my two year old has melt downs in the middle of the store sometimes (I try not to take him out on a “bad” day). I also know that most people are simply curious about how one wouldn’t be “done” after 1 or 2 children, let alone open to having more! Not all women are blessed with easy fertility from the get go. I have a friend who has never believed in birth control, we are the same age, yet she JUST gave birth to her second child and has had SEVEN miscarriages! Yet I have one suspected miscarriage (I didn’t test until it was “too late to detect the hormones) and 3 growing children in less time! I know that I will be done when God knows I’m done and honestly, I’m anxious to meet any more little ones that he formed to be waiting in the wings for me when time began.
Plus it’s rude to ask about my or my husbands reproductive organs. RUDE. there are many better ways to phrase the question. find one of those. k thanks. If I’ve been asked 10 times in a half hour (grocery shopping usually) if my husband and I are “fixed” yet, I’m likely to snap.
oh my favorite responses to the (usually) well meaning, “Oh you have your hands full!” or the like, “Better full than empty!”, “Yes ma’am/sir God has surely blessed us!” or “Idle hands are the Devil’s play ground.” the second is my favorite of the moment.
I respect every person’s desire for having more kids. What I don’t think it is right it is to make it Godly. As if the ones that don’t take birth control are holier than the rest. We are children of God by grace and it is only grace that keep us. So, not even one dot of what we do will make us holier, including having lots of kids. Besides that, the verse about a quiverfull that many use as their back is talking about having many arrows to fight the enemies. I thought Jesus told us to love our enemies. King David, who wrote Psalms 127 had tons of wives too, does that mean that to get even more arrows men should get more wives? Children are a blessing, but faith should not be placed in the reproductive system. It should be inside the heart. And full of grace.