Comments on: Unloved and Unwanted http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/ Heart of Wisdom Author Thu, 17 May 2012 20:05:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Anne-Marie http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3864 Anne-Marie Tue, 31 Mar 2009 22:49:10 +0000 http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3864 As a child who felt unloved, I have little problem loving and showing love to my children, but I struggle with feeling/knowing/accepting God's love. I think because I tried so hard for so long to get the attention I needed from my mother and I felt like such a failure as a child for not being loved by her, it has been difficult for me to accept God's love rather than trying to earn it. In my home, nothing was given without strings attached and real, honest love was never given. So, I have to keep reminding myself through the evidences of His love in my life that He loves me and I have to remind myself that my daily struggles and failures do not make Him love me less. As a child who felt unloved, I have little problem loving and showing love to my children, but I struggle with feeling/knowing/accepting God’s love. I think because I tried so hard for so long to get the attention I needed from my mother and I felt like such a failure as a child for not being loved by her, it has been difficult for me to accept God’s love rather than trying to earn it. In my home, nothing was given without strings attached and real, honest love was never given. So, I have to keep reminding myself through the evidences of His love in my life that He loves me and I have to remind myself that my daily struggles and failures do not make Him love me less.

]]> By: Anne-Marie Shaffer http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3865 Anne-Marie Shaffer Tue, 31 Mar 2009 22:06:04 +0000 http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3865 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">RT @heartofwisdom Unloved and Unwanted? http://budurl.com/lzx2</span></span> RT @heartofwisdom Unloved and Unwanted? http://budurl.com/lzx2

]]> By: Tackling Outgrown Clothes : Heart at Home http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3863 Tackling Outgrown Clothes : Heart at Home Sat, 17 Jan 2009 18:58:33 +0000 http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3863 [...] Unloved and Unwanted (Post on my other blog) [...] [...] Unloved and Unwanted (Post on my other blog) [...]

]]> By: Tara in VA http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3862 Tara in VA Thu, 31 Jul 2008 21:50:23 +0000 http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3862 The beauty of being in Christ and having Christ in me, is that I don't have to TRY to love anybody. I simply need to ask Jesus to love them through me. When our marriage nearly ended, my husband and I began asking God to love each other through us. My prayer was, "God please love dh through me. Right now I personally can not stand him!". That prayer from dh and from me changed the course of our marriage and our lives (and that of our family). At times loving statements (that I meant) would spill out of my mouth before my flesh and my "feelings" could guard them. They were often the words that ushered in the healing that we needed. All the fasting in the world could not have brought about that can of healing! It is only the Love of Jesus that can change people that way. As yet, God has not asked me to fast in order for him to bring about a change, but I suppose that is always a possibility! The beauty of being in Christ and having Christ in me, is that I don’t have to TRY to love anybody. I simply need to ask Jesus to love them through me. When our marriage nearly ended, my husband and I began asking God to love each other through us. My prayer was, “God please love dh through me. Right now I personally can not stand him!”. That prayer from dh and from me changed the course of our marriage and our lives (and that of our family). At times loving statements (that I meant) would spill out of my mouth before my flesh and my “feelings” could guard them. They were often the words that ushered in the healing that we needed. All the fasting in the world could not have brought about that can of healing! It is only the Love of Jesus that can change people that way. As yet, God has not asked me to fast in order for him to bring about a change, but I suppose that is always a possibility!

]]> By: Penney Douglas http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3861 Penney Douglas Wed, 30 Jul 2008 13:34:23 +0000 http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3861 As I was reading this post, I was remembering a book about Rees Howells and how he learned to abide in Christ. There was a lot more to abiding than I had realized before. It involved hours of prayer and fasting and taking everything to God - every decision, every daily activity - and obeying what God told him to do. The book is called Rees Howells: Intercessor by Norman Grubb. He and his group of intercessors became so powerful in prayer that their prayers affected battles during WW2. The other thought I had was about loving our enemies. We recently read The Hiding Place by Corrie ten Boom. I know Corrie was a wonderful, amazing godly woman throughout her life, but she learned to love enemies through her sister Betsie's example. Betsie was truly amazing in her love and compassion for the enemy. She saw them as needy, sin-sick people in need of a Savior, and didn't even get angry at them when they treated her with contempt and hatred. These examples help me to have a goal to shoot for. Just to know that someone else was actually able to live that way gives me hope that some day maybe I will be more like them - ultimately, more like Jesus. <em>Penney Douglas's last blog post..<a href='http://www.heartofwisdom.com/BecomingReal/?p=399' rel="nofollow">The Best Dad in the Whole World</a></em> As I was reading this post, I was remembering a book about Rees Howells and how he learned to abide in Christ. There was a lot more to abiding than I had realized before. It involved hours of prayer and fasting and taking everything to God – every decision, every daily activity – and obeying what God told him to do. The book is called Rees Howells: Intercessor by Norman Grubb. He and his group of intercessors became so powerful in prayer that their prayers affected battles during WW2.

The other thought I had was about loving our enemies. We recently read The Hiding Place by Corrie ten Boom. I know Corrie was a wonderful, amazing godly woman throughout her life, but she learned to love enemies through her sister Betsie’s example. Betsie was truly amazing in her love and compassion for the enemy. She saw them as needy, sin-sick people in need of a Savior, and didn’t even get angry at them when they treated her with contempt and hatred.

These examples help me to have a goal to shoot for. Just to know that someone else was actually able to live that way gives me hope that some day maybe I will be more like them – ultimately, more like Jesus.

Penney Douglas’s last blog post..The Best Dad in the Whole World

]]> By: What You Can Get for 84 Cents and Coupons! | Heart at Home http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3860 What You Can Get for 84 Cents and Coupons! | Heart at Home Wed, 30 Jul 2008 12:15:01 +0000 http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3860 [...] Unloved and Unwanted (Post on my other blog) [...] [...] Unloved and Unwanted (Post on my other blog) [...]

]]> By: Denise http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3859 Denise Wed, 30 Jul 2008 00:59:45 +0000 http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3859 Such a great, truthful post. <em>Denise's last blog post..<a href='http://shortybearsplace.blogspot.com/2008/07/in-other-words-tuesday_29.html' rel="nofollow">In Other Words Tuesday</a></em> Such a great, truthful post.

Denise’s last blog post..In Other Words Tuesday

]]> By: Susan http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3858 Susan Tue, 29 Jul 2008 21:07:23 +0000 http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3858 Hey Robin, How are you doing these days? As always, you take so much time and research when you post. I appreciate this about you. You brought out many wonderful points, and things for me to ponder. Thanks so much. Thanking God for all the opportunities He allows us daily to be His arms and feet to such a needy world. Blessings :razz: <em>Susan's last blog post..<a href='http://susan2956.blogspot.com/2008/07/bringing-good-news.html' rel="nofollow">Bringing Good News!</a></em> Hey Robin,

How are you doing these days?

As always, you take so much time and research when you post. I appreciate this about you.

You brought out many wonderful points, and things for me to ponder.

Thanks so much.

Thanking God for all the opportunities He allows us daily to be His arms and feet to such a needy world.

Blessings :razz:

Susan’s last blog post..Bringing Good News!

]]> By: Irish Coffeehouse http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3857 Irish Coffeehouse Tue, 29 Jul 2008 16:56:16 +0000 http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/unloved-and-unwanted/#comment-3857 We cannot fulfill the command “love others” or “to make disciples” unless we first become accept God’s love ourselves. I just cherish the truth and power in those words. Great post! We cannot fulfill the command “love others” or “to make disciples” unless we first become accept God’s love ourselves.

I just cherish the truth and power in those words. Great post!

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