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Feeling Worthy When We Aren’t

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How does one “settle the issue of our worth” when we are taught we are not worthy?

I’m speaking of  Christ-centered confidence, not self-made worth.  Self-worth and self-dependence can blind us to the holiness and glory of God.

God sees us as worthy! He is like the shepherd that left the 99 sheep to look for the one lost lamb. As children of God, we need to grasp how much He loves us–only then can we help others.

“Until you settle the issue of your own worth, it’s impossible to bring holiness into anyone else’s life. Until you understand that your worth is already determined by the fact of your birth, everything else is an exercise in propping up a dying tree.”

– Carol Brazo, “No Ordinary Home”

God doesn’t throw away the pot because it is cracked–like the potter in Jeremiah He reworks and reshapes the clay. God continues to work in us to make us into something usable.

The world operates by conditional love, offering acceptance based on performance. We feel we must strive to deserve God’s love.

Discovering ourselves as accepted in Christ begins to free us to be ourselves. It eats away at the root cause of our hiding — fear of exposure. We begin to be free to be real, to drop our guards and take off our masks.

“Church begins to breathe “grace,” because everyone in church is there on the same terms. They are there because they are failures, and because they know to the roots of their beings that they are failures, and they have heard the good Word of Christ that they are accepted as failures in Jesus Christ, received as sinners.

So there is no reason to hide and pretend. The ground of our acceptance is not in us; it is in Jesus. There is no reason to put on some kind of persona.”

Baxter Kruger, Parable of the Dancing God

It is hard to believe He loves us because it seems unreasonable or we because we feel guilty or because we have failed. We know our sinful nature is not worthy; our righteousness is as filthy rags.

“The difference between Christianity and every other religion is that in religious mythology you always have to “get to God”. In Christianity God has come to us, remains with us as we are, and has gotten us into himself by getting into us – our humanity, literally!” Baxter Kruger

God’s divine and perfect love can never be earned by human effort. There is nothing we can do to get it. He has always loved us. Love to man is an emotion, but for God, it’s a commitment, a promise. While we were sinners He loved us (Romans 5:8) enough to sacrifice His only Son–the only real worthy One. Because of His sacrifice we are made worthy.

On that day you will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you. John 13:20

We Walk in His Worthiness

Its not how much we love God–its how much He loves us.

We are righteous because He is righteous.

When we understand how much He loves us–by time in His Word–we develop intimacy with Him. When we develop intimacy with Him, we trust Him. When we trust in Him, we know it is best to conform to His commands. When we know it is best to conform to His commands, we learn to die to self.

When we die to self and conform to His laws, they become written on our hearts. When His Law is on our hearts, we become holy. Holiness is the image of God, His likeness, in Him that is holy. It is then that perfect peace follows. When others observe our confidence in Christ and our peace, they will want what we have, and we can influence them for Christ.

You yourselves are our letter of recommendation, written on your hearts, to be known and read by all men; and you show that you are a letter from Christ delivered by us, written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts.

Such is the confidence that we have through Christ toward God. Not that we are competent of ourselves to claim anything as coming from us; our competence is from God, who has made us competent to be ministers of a new covenant, not in a written code but in the Spirit; for the written code kills, but the Spirit gives life. 2 Corinthians 3:1-6

Reread the passage again. Such is the confidence that we have through Christ toward God. Not that we are competent of ourselves to claim anything as coming from us; our competence is from God.

“In shocking grace and humility, the one expectation of the Triune God, the one thing that the Father, Son and Spirit counted on from us in order to make the incarnation a reality is that we would pour our scorn, our anger, our wrath, our judgment onto Jesus, humiliating him publicly by cruel crucifixion.

And Jesus deliberately and wonderfully endured it all. In bearing our scorn, and submitting himself to our bitter anger, Jesus met us where we are in the dungeon of our brokenness. He accepted us. He identified with us, and through having no expectations from us other than that we would reject him, he has established a personal relationship with us at our very worst. Now, Jesus lives in our dungeons, and he brought his Papa and the Holy Spirit with him.

In the very place where our disastrous dream of the Magical Other (and its poisonous demands) is born now dwells the life and fellowship and love of the blessed Trinity.”

From this blog post by Baxter Kruger.

We are worthy in Christ. Walk in it. Enjoy your relationship with God. Let Him love you.

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  1. I really enjoyed your take on this weeks quote, bless you.

  2. Love this! I love that passage in 2 Corinthians. Thank you for sharing.

  3. I loved your take and post on the quote. Thank you for sharing this week.

    Angel ( Angel Mama Pearls of Wisdom)

  4. I wanted to tell you how much this encouraged me. Thank you for your honesty and words of wisdom!

  5. Beautiful post, Robin. Feeding ourselves spiritually before feeding our children is an important, and difficult, lesson to learn. Thanks for posting!

  6. Robin,

    This was amazing! Thank you so much for sharing.

  7. Thank you for the reminder that God’s love for us is not performance-based. You really do have a heart of wisdom ~

  8. Wonderful post. You truly can’t help others until you help yourself. That was very wise advice you received.

  9. “God’s divine and perfect love can never be earned by human effort.” So true. What a beautiful post, thank you. I love the story about your Godly mentor leading you back again and again to your own issue, telling you that you couldn’t help your daughters until you helped yourself. A wonderful analogy.

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  11. I don’t even know,fellow!) continued to write in the same vein, it is interesting people!

  12. RT @heartofwisdom: How does one “settle the issue of our worth” when we are taught we are not worthy? http://budurl.com/worthy

  13. “The world operates by conditional love, offering acceptance based on performance.” read more here: http://budurl.com/worthy

  14. “God’s divine and perfect love can never be earned by human effort.” http://budurl.com/worthy

  15. Amen sister! This is an amazing post. I was told so many times growing up by my earthly father that I was a mistake and a failure and unwanted & unworthy that it has been a struggle to truly let God’s True Love wash over me. I am learning (slower than I would like sometimes) to find my Worth in Christ and Him alone. Thank you for sharing your heart. I love to read your posts. :-)

    God Bless,
    KC @ Lil Momma’s Haven

  16. RT @heartofwisdom: Until u settle the issue of yr own worth, it’s impossible 2bring holiness in2 anyone else’s life. How? http://ow.ly/UYoB

  17. Hi Robin,
    We’ve been connected via Twitter for a while but I haven’t visited your site for sometime. But how good God is! Let me explain.

    Yesterday I went to visit a friend’s secular book group. I’ve been leading one for our church for a couple of years, and wanted to know how others work (Incidentally, I’ve just started an online book club, inviting people to comment). My friend introduced me to the other members of the group as a published author and, of course, they wanted to know all about my books – information which I gladly imparted because my mantra is to inform, inspire and encourage (from the Corinthians verses: comforting others with the comfort with which I’ve been comforted).

    However, I was woken during the night (my neighbour has a faulty light which disturbs me) and because of low self-esteem which began in childhood (with which I’ve battled and won the victory) I found myself lying in bed thinking in those dark hours before dawn ‘who do you think you’re kidding?’ It went on and on and on.

    I know it’s the Enemy taking advantage of those vulnerable hours and speaking lies to me, but it’s enervating nonetheless. However, this morning, whilst in the throes of revising some of my earlier articles, I came across a link to your website. Naturally, I wanted to check that it still worked and, guess what, the first of your featured articles that I came across was this one on feeling worthy. PTL – he knows my thoughts and needs before I know them myself. So thank you for being part of that. Great to think that one day we’ll be in Glory together . . . Now there’s a thought!

  18. Whoops! Forgot to give you the link where your blog is mentioned.
    http://www.melmenzies.co.uk/blog/2009/03/six_blogging_styles_which_approach_turns_you_on

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