Our Number One Job as Parents
Imagine a fish swimming in a river. The swimming fish is content in its environment. It is where it belongs; doing what it is created to do. Now imagine someone scooped the fish up in a net and placed in on the riverbank. What happens? The fish flip flops and struggles on the ground.
Keeping Our Children from Being a Fish Out of Water
We all have one main purpose—to have a relationship with God, to bring glory to Him by the way we live our lives, by how we relate to Him and others (Matt. 22:37-39; Mark 12:29-31).
When we are walking in that purpose we are where we are meant to be, we are swimming in the river of living water. Doing what we are created to do. When we are not fulfilling that purpose we are frustrated, discouraged, depressed, brokenhearted, and frequently provoked to seek out something else that will fulfill the void.

Proverbs 22:6 says Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
This verse shows us a parent’s training must be based on knowing his or her child. The Hebrew text has the personal pronoun attached to the noun “way.” It reads, “his way” and not simply “in the way he should go.” “Way” is the Hebrew word derek, which means “way, road, journey, manner.”
Our number one job as parents is to open our children’s eyes to God’s love and God’s ways and to recognize and acknowledge our child’s purpose –his unique way or bent–then provide the environment, help, encouragement, and the tools to help them full fill it.
We teach our children how much God loves them by example–fulfilling the greatest commands loving God and others. And by reading the stories from God’s Word teaching the m to respect God and learn of His ways.
God will reveal bits and pieces of your child’s purpose through the seasons of your life. We are to pray to recognize it and be aware of the revelation. Then help them recognize their identity and make available the skills needed for that purpose to be manifested.
Homeschool Scheduling by Faith
On of the worse things we can do is to push our agenda upon them. God forbid we miss recognizing our purpose or miss helping our children find their purpose.
This is why I follow Delight Directed methods over curriculum agenda and why I try to Schedule by Faith.
In the same way, one of the worse things the leadership in the church can do is to push their agenda on individuals (religion instead of relationship). The church should be the sanctuary where we can find the freedom and encouragement to develop our gifts and talents and purpose just as the home should be the sanctuary where our children can find the freedom and encouragement to develop their gifts and talents.
Prayer
My daily morning prayer goes something like this: Good Morning Father. What would you have me do today? What would you have me say? Open my eyes to Your Light, direction and will. Show me what you want me to teach your children today.
Seek and Trust
God will lead you into your purpose and your children’s purpose. You don’t need to strive to find it. He is able to guide you exactly where you need to go; your job is to keep your eyes and ears open. 
Spiritual maturity is about coming to the end of ourselves and realizing just how big God really is, and that there is no way that we could ever do it on our own!
Seek God and rest assured, He will perfect that which concerns you and your children. (Psalm 138:8). Trust, have confidence in Him, wait in joyful anticipation for Him to revel His will. “Blessed are all who wait for Him.” Isaiah 30:18

I began this blogging Fruit of the Spirit things on Fridays meme because I have personally experienced a deeper walk as a result of journaling as part of my personal Bible study. We all struggle with dying to self daily-–we are commanded to share one another’s burdens–I’m hoping the meme will help others focus on God and grow spiritually. Click here for Blog prompts.
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Comment by H0MEFree :
The way I understand the Bible, our number one job as parents is Deuteronomy 6:1-9.
Deuteronomy 6:1-9
The Greatest Commandment
1 “Now this is the commandment, and these are the statutes and judgments which the LORD your God has commanded to teach you, that you may observe them in the land which you are crossing over to possess,
2 that you may fear the LORD your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments which I command you, you and your son and your grandson, all the days of your life, and that your days may be prolonged.
3 Therefore hear, O Israel, and be careful to observe it, that it may be well with you, and that you may multiply greatly as the LORD God of your fathers has promised you—‘a land flowing with milk and honey.’[a]
4 “Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one![b]
5 You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.
6 “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart.
7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.
8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.
9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
Comment by Anna-Marie Hawthorne :
I agree with HOMEFree. And I think Robin is saying how we accomplish Deut. 6 in every day life. Great post Robin, as always.
Comment by Anna-Marie :
One question though Robin. Don’t you have some sort of loose guide for learning through the grades? Maybe not a scope and sequence but a general guide. I understand being led by the Spirit but I also feel comfortable knowing what general direction we are heading.
I still do separate subjects but i love your ideas. Maybe one day I will move to unit studies but right now this is where we are. Thanks for all your inspiration.
Comment by Anna-Marie :
Sorry, it’s me again. I think I know the answer. It’s the 4 year rotation in HOWTA right??
Comment by Mary @ Raising 4 Godly Men :
What a timely message ….again ! I needed to hear this. I have been floundering around in my homeschooling and I think…know it is b/c I am too stretched outside my home. I have been asking God for a vs for balance. I need to prioritise what is most important so I can be the best mommy to my four boys I can be. Thank you for that reminder.
Blessings and ((HUGS)) my SSiC
In Him<
-Mary @Raising 4 Godly Men
Comment by Tamara Scire :
Hello Robin,
Once again, thank you! I love how the Holy Spirit uses you to confirm what He has been saying to me. I can sense your calm spirit in this post–as a Titus woman, leading those of us who are being taught “a new way” by our Heavenly Father. Your words encourage me, Robin.
Thank you–blessings upon blessings to you and your family!
Tamara Scire
Comment by Penney Douglas :
I love this. You know I do. I retweeted it several times!:)
I gave you a Fabulous Blog award. It’s a double award, actually. You can see it at http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/penneyfromheaven/647820/
Thanks for all you do, Robin!
Love,
Penney
Comment by Mary Williams :
This is such a great touching post. I’m praying I can remember the importance of my job.
Comment by Beth Abbot :
This is a great post Do you mind if I link your post up on my blog?
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Comment by Sheri :
Oh how my prayer is to keep my focus on Christ and our #1 job as parents. Thank you for this great reminder today Robin!
Comment by Storm :
Well said, as usual. Thanks for the reminder.