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Becoming a Kinder, Gentler Mother

Becoming a Kinder, Gentler Mother

What mother doesn’t want to  become  kinder, gentler, and more loving?

Remember how Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz was searching for a way home and finally found out she had the magic slippers that she had on the whole time?  You have the answer inside you now.

I received a visual object lesson of this promise this week.

Gushing Waters

My daughter, Belinda, and I went to Chattanooga this week for a homeschool meeting . Later that day we visited Ruby Falls. It was amazing.

We went down an elevator 360 ft below the surface, then walked through the geological wonders in the caverns until we got to the falls.

The folks at Ruby Falls make this experience as dramatic as possible. After a long walk through the caverns, you enter a  purposely darkened entry area where you can’t see but you can hear the falls. Dramatic music is played until it reaches a crescendo, and then powerful floodlights come on, revealing majestic, gushing waters, crashing down 145 feet.

I immediately thought of Jesus being our Living Water.

Broken Cistern Syndrome

God provides a simple way to become a better mother (wife, person). He promises to  put His living, loving water in us that will flow out to others. We only need to choose God’s way. The sad words of Jeremiah’s  prophecy are easily applicable to our own time:

My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water. (Jeremiah 2:1)

Comfort, help, healing, and deliverance were all available, but Israel turned away from God.  “Broken cisterns” was God’s way of saying that the people had turned from Him to worthless sources.

Cistern is the translation of the Hebrew word bor, which means hole, pit, or more often, well; they are  man-made containers used to catch and hold water. Cisterns were large pits that were dug into rock and covered with plaster and used to collect rainwater. Many of the earliest cisterns were hollowed out of porous limestone, allowing much of the water to escape. Cracked cisterns unable to hold water—and thus unable to sustain life.

Where would you prefer your water source to come from?

  1. A clear, cool stream of dependable running water
  2. Stagnant, muddy water  from a cistern

We lose God’s presence and substitute it with water from our own efforts. Relying on  a few hours of religion a week is like putting water into a broken cistern. We can’t hold the water!

Jesus’ Promise

Jesus spoke of “living water” that He would give to those who ask Him. Read His conversation with the Samaritan woman at the well:

Jesus answered, “If you had known the gift of God and who it is who said to you ‘Give me some water to drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.”

“Sir,” the woman said to him, “you have no bucket and the well is deep; where then do you get this living water?  Surely you’re not greater than our father Jacob, are you? For he gave us this well and drank from it himself, along with his sons and his livestock.”

Jesus replied, “Everyone who drinks some of this water will be thirsty again.  But whoever drinks some of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again, but the water that I will give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up to eternal life.”

He explained that this living water would spring forth inside the heart as a result of trusting in Him. In Revelation  Jesus says, “To all who are thirsty I will give the springs of the water of life freely”

Living a “Dammed” Life

Once we are saved, the living water is in us but sometimes we  unknowingly build a dam and block or retain it.   Hurt, anxiety, anger,  unforgiveness,  and fear can create a dam that  causes not only a block but great pressure in our life. When the sluice in the dam is opened there is an endless supply of water flowing.

Becoming a Better Mother

When I surrender to God (open the dam)  and ask Him to let His love flow through me, He answers. I have been in several situations where I would usually have felt irritated with my children but instead acted lovingly.

It always surprises me. “I think, “Gee, where did that come from?” and then I  thank God for answering my prayers to allow His love to flow through me.

Thirst and Drink

In order to draw near to God, seek Him fervently over any selfish ambitions. Jesus satisfies the thirst craving of the heart by graciously imparting His Spirit to us.

David passionately sought the Lord and His ways. He wrote, “As the deer pants for water brooks, so my soul pants for you, O God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God” (Ps. 42:1,2). As a result, he became the person the Lord called “a man after my own heart” (Acts 13:22).

Jesus cried out in the Temple courts at the Feast of Tabernacles, during the water  pouring ceremony:

“If anyone is thirsty, let him keep coming to me and drinking! Whoever trusts in me, as the Word says, rivers of living water will flow from his inmost being!”

WOW, what a promise! If we trust God, rivers of living water will flow from our inmost being!

On our own we can’t hold water, but when we surrender to Christ Jesus, He will quench our spiritual thirst and will pour out a river of living water through our life, making us a blessing to God and others.

God delights in supplying you with wisdom, love, peace, joy, intimacy, and hope. He is willing to guide you at every turn. God penetrates hearts, not programs. That’s what intimacy is all about, and it is what we are called to pass on to others.

Don’t rely on the broken cistern of  religious performance; remove the dam and grow in a personal relationship with God. A fountain of living water will flow from your inmost being.



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  1. Hello Robin! I was glad to read this this evening. I think our sites are set low in regards to Him providing us with abundance of His Spirit. Its as if we ask for a drink, take a sip and run. We’re invited to drink freely. My friend just said yesterday that we didn’t spend much time thanking Him for relieving our drought and do we have the faith to even ask for more rain, now, when we don’t necessarily need it?
    He really is continually nigh us, even in our mouths just as Dorothy said, “There is no place like Home,”….there is no Lord like Jesus!

    So happy to hear about your very fun excursion! Praying for your strength and health in your body!

    Love in the Lord,

  2. (fm Homeschool Hop) All I can say is thank you, Robin. Once again, only a few hours ago, I realized that I can do nothing without His grace. I am ready to come to my Lord in the mornings once again and get totally lost in Him and allow Him to fill me with what I need and I’m done (again), with trying to do it myself. This is a timely word for me. I love you. Thanks so much for sharing.

  3. Fm Homeschol Lounge:
    Beautiful~Thanks so much for sharing this with us!

    Also, simply smiling at your/our children regularly and OFTEN is a tremendous way to open the doors to The Lord living and having His way in us a mothers. Smiling at our children often gives them such hope and joy and peace and it also allows us the blessing of humbling ourselves before God and it’s amazing how He works thru our smiles!

    Tammy :o)

  4. This is so good. I was just thinking about intimacy with God and how we should really feel desperate to spend time with Him. He does fill us up to overflowing when we get alone with Him. And splashing love and mercy on to others is the best way to interact with them!

  5. If I’m really desperate for time with Him, I’m not going to let anything keep me from it. Lord, make me desperate!
    I really need His strength and love for each day. I’m not enough.
    .-= Penney Douglas´s last blog ..Developing a Unit Study on Early American History – the Spirit-led Way =-.

  6. I’m sure not always as kind and gentle as I’d like to be! Thanks for a beautiful reminder. 🙂

  7. Wow, this is such good timing for me and my husband. We have come to the conclusion that we are trying to do what is right in OUR eyes to solve some problems in our family. Two nights ago we came to the realization that we can’t solve it, only God can and we have to seek Him and His will. I am sending my husband here to get encouragement too. Thank you and God Bless!
    .-= Nancy ´s last blog ..We are back! =-.

  8. Fm Homeschool Hop:

    Boy! Did I need this, Robin! I am so grateful to you for going through the effort to share this with us!

  9. Fm Homeschool Lounge:

    This is wonderful!! Thank you so much for sharing this with us Robin, I needed to hear this this week. I needed reminding.


  10. Dear Robin, Thank you for sharing, I feel as though the Lord has been showing me that I am so caught up on the tasks at hand that I struggle with being relational. The task becomes more important to me, I just wan’t it done. while at the market today I had to really pay attention to being kinder to my children and I thank God that he helped me to recognize my error. Love you, Carrie Gadbois

  11. >splashing love and mercy on to others is the best way to interact with them!>

    Love this Penny!

  12. Amber Van Doren

    This post seems to be another reminder from God to me to work on things. I have been reading “To Train Up a Child”, by Michael Pearl. It really brought back to me what I wanted in the beginning and how to get there peacefully. I have been lost in frustration for a long time and a lot of reasons. I have felt myself arguing inside and now that I am studying this new book I feel different and love how I feel now.

  13. Beautiful~Thanks so much for sharing this with us!

    Also, simply smiling at your/our children regularly and OFTEN is a tremendous way to open the doors to The Lord living and having His way in us a mothers. Smiling at our children often gives them such hope and joy and peace and it also allows us the blessing of humbling ourselves before God and it’s amazing how He works thru our smiles!

  14. Just a note. Living in Mexico, one time we lived where there was a natural spring. It bubbled up out of the ground constantly & was always fresh, clear water. If it got plugged it didn’t take it very long to push the plug out of the way and continue bubbling. That is the picture I think of as what we so often reject in order to have a hole in the ground, which leaks, to hold our water (rainwater collected during the rains). The spring is far better!

  15. Thank you so much for sharing. I just did an object lesson for my Sunday School class on “living water” (using carbonated soda as the object) vs. “stale water” (tap water) to explain what it means to have Jesus in our lives. We talked about preserving our “Christian sparkle” by keeping the “cap” (loyalty, restraint, devotion) on our soda.

    God Bless! MK

  16. Hi Robin,

    I was delighted to come across this .. I was seeking the Lord about this issue..thanks for ‘hearing’ from Him and posting this!

    Love and Blessings,

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