Comments on: Homeschool! Aren't You Worried About Socialization?

By: Kristina

Kristina — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 15:11:42 +0000

Are we all replying to Phil? First I should say I have three boys. Many of their friends are in public school. But rejection and learning how to handle it as an adult, Phil believes Homeschoolers are less able to handle. My children have seen rejection since they were about 8 yrs old. What has been great about being homeschooled is that the parents are right there and able to direct them in a positive, biblical light. I promise you that our homeschooled kids get denied and rejected just like friends in public school. They just learn how to handle it better : )
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By: Amanda

Amanda — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 13:42:49 +0000

Amein Robyn! Seriously so many people are so concerned about ‘socialization’ it gets on my nerves a little and sometimes it makes me doubt myself. Yet there are so few people who actually believe in the bible and treat it more like a philosophy than a way of life I feel so old fashioned sometimes! I like it that way though and love to not be surrounded by those things that make us stumble.

I saw one of the responses discussed having problems when little ones play with the neighbor kids…and it is so true! Those “bad” behaviors really don’t take much time to sink in!

I shared this link with some of my fellow home educators out here in Ireland and they loved it, too!

Thank you yet again, Robyn!

By: Gidget

Gidget — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 22:18:29 +0000

Great post, Robin! Would you believe I just had this question posed to me this week by someone who is considering homeschool for their family. I guess that’s why I had so much to say up there under Phil’s post

New Follower – looking forward to reading many more words of wisdom

By: Gidget

Gidget — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 22:14:57 +0000

I would actually disagree with you there – we are in the second generation of homeschoolers. My sister and brother were both homeschooled and it was not that uncommon even then.

I also believe that homeschooled children are actually better prepared to enter the adult world because they have been operating in the adult world. Schools create an artificial environment. As an adult, we are free to choose who we associate with and you don’t put yourself in situations and with people that make you uncomfortable but yet children are forced to be all smushed together in unnatural groups.

When they do end up out there on their own, I feel that they are actually much better prepared to stand on their own two feet because we have given them a strong foundation that wasn’t undermined while it was being built.

whew…. that’s the end of my soapbox

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By: Robin Sampson

Robin Sampson — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 14:35:35 +0000

Phil,

As stated in the post, testing proves homeschool children had significantly lower problem behavior scores than do their conventional school agemates. And the home educated have positive self-concepts.

We teach them how to handle conflicts Biblically see “Handling Conflicts Wisely” Lesson from Wisdom Unit Study http://bit.ly/3S6FAi

By: Momma Knows

Momma Knows — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 13:41:13 +0000

Interesting…. Insane homeschool students?! I’ve never heard of such people! The majority of the homeschooled kids I know are VERY social– including my own kids– and moms like me are just as busy keeping up with it all as parents of traditionally schooled kids. Rejection is a part of life and we need to teach our kids how to handle that, no matter how they are educated. It sounds to me as if Phil is not happy about his own education or life preparation. Learning from life’s situations is part of being socialized, but complaining doesn’t go very far.

By: Phil

Phil — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 23:20:47 +0000

It’s my opinion (as a homeschooler) that you can never replace or replicate the social skills learned at school. Realize that this is relatively the first generation of homeschool existence. We have yet to hear the independent views of grown-up homeschoolers.

Many times there doesn’t seem to be a social problem because there is no raw peer criticism. This criticism doesn’t stop with grade-school, however, but continues on into the career/dating life. The benefit that conventional students have is they are accustomed to this peer rejection/acceptance and have learned to handle themselves.

What we find with homeschoolers is, yes, their grades are good but they are unable to break the social code of the world. They are behind a wall that everyone else can see but them. Once they understand the existence of this wall they either go into denial or insanity.