I had this cartoon made many years ago just to answer this frequently asked question. It is usually the first question / concern one has when they find out you are homeschooling.
Yes, homeschool children should have friends. But not just random friends. Homeschoolers have the opportunity to for selective socialization.
Parents can guide their children to other Christian families with like minded morals and values. Most home school families I know are are very active with other families. There are weekly field trips with support groups, twice a week church functions, scouts, choir, weekly skating parties, etc, etc.
Our family made a decision to cut back on social events becasue all the running around cut into our family time!
Studies Prove Homeschoolers Do Better Socially
Information gathered by the National Home Education Research Institute prove homeschool students have significantly higher self concepts than those in public schools.
- Dr. Johnson (1991) concluded that home educators carefully address the socialization needs of their children in every area studied (i.e., personal identity, personal destiny, values and moral development, autonomy, relationships, sexuality, and social skills).
- Studying actual observed behavior, Dr. Shyers (1992) found the home educated had significantly lower problem behavior scores than do their conventional school agemates. And the home educated have positive self-concepts.
- Dr. Taylor (1986) found that the home educated have significantly higher self concepts than those in public schools.
- The home schooled are well adjusted socially and emotionally like their private school comparison group. The home educated, however, are less peer dependent than the private school students (Delahooke, 1986).
- Dr. Montgomery (1989) found that home schooled students are just as involved in out-of-school and extracurricular activities that predict leadership in adulthood as are those in the comparison private school (that was comprised of students more involved than those in public schools).
- Home educated children are more mature and better socialized than are those sent to school, according to Thomas Smedley’s personal interaction and communications approach to understanding socialization.
- Dr. Gary Knowles, of the University of Michigan, explored adults who were home educated. None were unemployed and none were on welfare, 94% said home education prepared them to be independent persons, 79% said it helped them interact with individuals from different levels of society, and they strongly supported the home education method.
What Does God’s Word Say About Who we Socialize With?
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
2 Co 6:14
W. W. Wiersbe’s note on this passage:
It is a basic principle of life that opposites cannot fellowship together. The “unequal yoke” takes us back to Moses’ admonition in Lev. 19:19. These Corinthians were yoking themselves with unbelievers in marriage, business life, and other ways, and were losing their testimonies for Christ. After all, if Christians live like the world, how can they witness to the world?
Note the series of contrasts here: righteousness/ unrighteousness; light/ darkness; Christ/ Belial (an OT name for Satan); believer/ unbeliever (infidel); temple of God/idols.
The attitude of too many Christians today is that the church should court and please the world in order to try to win it. Nothing could be further from the truth! There must be separation from sin. This does not mean isolation, retreating from the world; it does mean keeping ourselves from the defilement of the world.
It is fine for the ship to be in the water, but when water gets into the ship, look out! Paul cites Lev. 26:11–12 to show that God lives and walks in the believer, so that his relationship to the world affects his fellowship with God.
Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate …II Cor. 6:17
Separation evolves two dimensions-one negative and one positive:
- Separating yourself morally and spiritually from sin and everything that is contrary to Jesus Christ, righteous and God’s Word.
- Drawing near to God in a close intimate fellowship thorough dedication, worship and service.
Don Stamp commentary explains in the Full Life Bible:
- In the Old Testament separation was an ongoing requirement for God’s people. (Ex 23:24; Lev. 20:22-26; Isa 52:11;) They were expected to be holy, different and separated from other peoples in order to belong to God as His very own.
- In the New Testament God commanded separation of the believer (a) from the corrupt world system and from unholy compromise. (b) from those in church who sin and refuse to repent (Mat 7:15; 1Co 5:9-11; 2Th 3:6-15) and from false teachers, churches or cults that teach theological error and deny Biblical truths (Mat 7:15; Rom 16:17)
- Our attitude in separation must be one of (a) hatred toward sin, unrighteousness and the corrupt world system, (b) opposition to false doctrine, © genuine love towards whom we must separate. and (d) fear of God as we perfect holiness.
- The purpose of separation is that we as God’s people might (a) persevere in salvation (1Ti 4:16; Rev 12:14-17), faith (1Ti 1:19; 6:10; 20-21) and holiness (Jo 17:14-21; 2Cor 7:1) (b) live wholly for God as our Lord and Father (Mat 22:37; 2Co 6:16-18) and convince the unbelieving world of the truth and blessings of the gospel (Jn 17:21; Phi. 2:15.)
- If we separate ourselves properly, God Himself rewards us by drawing near with His protection, blessing and Fatherly care. He promises to be everything a good Father should be. He will be our counselor, guide; He will love and cherish us as His own children. (2Cor 6:16-18)
- The refusal of believers to separate themselves from evil will inevitability result in loss of fellowship with God (2 Co 6:16), of acceptance by the Father (6:17) and of our rights as children (6:18cf. Rom 8:15-16).
What are your thoughts about socilization?