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The Most Powerful Promise in the Bible

I silently grieve daily with a burden only my closest family members know about. It is an inexpressible profound pain, forever lingering just below the surface. It is my weakest area. Satan knows this. When I’m tired or ill he whispers reminders to my soul, catching me off guard and throwing me into an aching, agonizing abyss of mourning again, tearing ... Read More »

Submissive Wife or Narcissist Victim?

It is an admirable goal for a Christian woman to work on becoming  a  submissive wife as outlined in Ephesians 5:22-33, but this sincere desire to please God and her husband can tempt a narcissist to manipulate and abuse the woman. Narcissist predators are on the lookout for women who strive to be  selfless and willing to sacrifice to care for ... Read More »

Feeling Alone in Church

Original Post 2011 see UPDATE 2014 at bottom of this post. When we moved from Virginia to Tennessee in 2007 we started attending a local church. The people are sweet. kind, and loving. But after five years attending a church of over 500 three or more times a week, I still feel like I didn’t really know anyone. I taught Sunday school, ... Read More »

Spiritual Roots of Diseases (Fear)

I went to a conference on the spiritual roots of diseases with my daughter Victoria in 2008. It was such a blessing to spend a full week with her before she passed in 2014. It is no surprise that there are spiritual roots to many diseases.  Christians have  same statistics in the areas of cancer, heart disease, depression, divorce, diabetes, etc.  ... Read More »

In the Valley of the Shadow

My daughter died in January 2014. In times of great stress like death of a family member we have to rely on God’s strength, not our own. Oswald Chambers said, “We are not built for the mountains and the dawns and aesthetic affinities, those are for moments of inspiration, that is all. We are built for the valley, for the ordinary stuff ... Read More »

Caught In The Do-Dos

The Businessman and the Begger Two men approached Jesus on his last journey to Jerusalem–a businessman and a beggar. The first was a righteous man who had meticulously kept the law all of his life. He only wanted to ensure that his efforts would be enough to secure him eternal life. Tragically, he went away deeply grieved and broken, his ... Read More »

Why I Don’t Go to Church Anymore!

Letter from Wayne Jacobsen: I do appreciate your concern for me and your willingness to raise issues that have caused you concern. I know the way I relate to the church is a bit unconventional and some even call it dangerous. Believe me, I understand that concern because I used to think that way myself and even taught others to as well. Read More »

In Memory of My Daughter

She was beautiful, giving, amazingly talented. She was the most loving person I have ever known. She loved her children emormously and was usually seen with one of them in her loving embrace. Her laugh was infectious. She was inspirational, amazingly creative in business, crafts, and art. She was the peace maker in our family. She was my “go to” person for ... Read More »

17 Characteristics of a Codependent

What is a Codependent? The term codependency has been around for about forty years. It originally applied to spouses of alcoholics, however, they found that if you were raised in a dysfunctional family or suffer from shame ad feeling unworthy you are more than likely codependent. When a person is controlled or manipulated by another (parent or spouse) who is affected with a pathological condition such ... Read More »

Submission or Doormat Legalism?

There is dangerous trend in several homeschool movements that focus on obedience to man-made rules instead of God’s rules. Legalism is essentially opposed to grace. Biblical submission teachings are distorted to the point that family life centers around the father of the home rather than on Jesus Christ. This legalism begins with a false teaching about women’s roles. Dr John ... Read More »

Expectations and Legalism?

“Lower your expectations of earth. This isn’t heaven, so don’t expect it to be.” ~ Max Lucado ~ I attended a seminar in 1975 titled “Give Your Expectations to God.” I learned that you can’t be frustrated with people when you don’t expect anything from them. We choose to be irritated and upset with others. Forgive those who fail you; ... Read More »

Make Friends with The Problems In Your Life

I have had a rough few days, hospitalized, poked, prodded and frustrated dealing with the medical system. I am home now after a blood transfusion and my blood counts are lower now than I went in. Translation- all that for nothing. I was throwing a little pity party this morning my sweet friend Dolores read this devotions to me over ... Read More »

My Birthday Gift From God

Today is my birthday. Last night was Prayer Meeting at church. I couldn’t get my mind off family problems. I sniffled through the prayers and wiped away tears quickly before anyone raised their head from praying to catch me crying. After the service I scurried to the bathroom to fix my make up. God forbid anyone see me cry in ... Read More »

The Perfect Mirror

Jesus was not brought down by atheism and anarchy. He was brought down by law and order allied with religion, which is always a deadly mix. Beware those who claim to know the mind of God and are prepared to use force, if necessary, to make others conform... Read More »

Journey to Wholeness

Last week I was admitted to the local hospital for 4 days. Tuesday I went to the Vanderbilt Emergency Room with the same stomach problems. I returned home this morning (Friday)...Diagnoses: either the last doctor was wrong about my Crohns diagnoses or I've been healed. Praise the Lord! Read More »

O What Needless Pain We Bear

I’m overwhelmed at the love and mercy in the sweet, compassionate comments from my last post My Story: Masked to Truefaced. Thank you so much for your kind words. My blog friends make my life brighter! Thank you for your unconditional love. (There is a difference between unconditional love and unconditional approval. You don’t have to approve of one’s actions ... Read More »

Being Understood is a Luxury

Christians who are passionate for God can be unaware of the critical need for people to be understood. Many of our brothers and sisters in Christ have deep emotional roots that go ignored. We all have a need to come to grips with the scars from our past, to be honest about our brokenness and become vulnerable and learn to grow through pain. We do this by being heard and being understood. Read More »

Brick Walls Are There for a Reason

This week’s quote is from The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch, a young professor dying of cancer. See the video here. “….the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They are there to stop the other people…..Brick walls are there for a reason. They give us a chance to show how badly we ... Read More »

View from the Back of an Ambulance

Is there anything more sobering than an hour ride in an ambulance with flashing lights and screaming sirens? Yes, there is. When the paramedic in the back of the ambulance takes your BP and says to the ambulance driver, “You better speed it up” SPEED IT UP? Yep, that is even more sobering. Rejoice: This Week Has Been a Trial ... Read More »

Light in the Dark Valley

I was overwhelmed to tears at the caring comments I received from my I’m-in-a-dark-valley-pray-for-me post. After I wrote the post, I had to leave for the day (errands, dentist, house closing). I didn’t get back to the hotel until 8 pm to find you all reaching out to me in compassion, lovingly, without judgment and with precious comments of encouragement. ... Read More »

We Can Rejoice in Weakness

I recently  listened to a powerful audio message by Nancy Leigh DeMoss on pride. You would think  struggles with sin should be enough to keep me humble. In my lifetime, I have broken every commandment. I have failed God and He has been displeased with me. I battle with sins of bitterness, complaining, impatience, and more on a daily basis. ... Read More »

Loneliness, Solitude??

“As Christians, we are called to convert our loneliness into solitude. We are called to experience our aloneness not as a wound but as a gift–as God’s gift–so that in our aloneness we might discover how deeply we are loved by God.” ~ Henri Nouwen ~ From the archive June 2007. What a hoot for this week’s quote prompt to ... Read More »