It is an admirable goal for a Christian woman to work on becoming a submissive wife as outlined in Ephesians 5:22-33, but this sincere desire to please God and her husband can tempt a narcissist to manipulate and abuse the woman. Narcissist predators are on the lookout for women who strive to be selfless and willing [...]
Category: Spiritual Abuse
There is dangerous trend in several homeschool movements that focus on obedience to man-made rules instead of God’s rules. Legalism is essentially opposed to grace. Biblical submission teachings are distorted to the point that family life centers around the father of the home rather than on Jesus Christ. This legalism begins with a false teaching [...]
Define Church When you mention church most people think if the institutional church (IC) organization or a building. A place you have to go to fellowship if you are a Christian. But Bible defines the Church is Christ’s body; a living organism, it cannot be defined as a building or an organization because it is [...]
Every year I deal with the same remarks by well-intended but misinformed folks: they believe observing Passover is legalism or Judaizing. I posted Why Christians are Observing Passover at The Homeschool Lounge last year and got some criticism. I won’t say it doesn’t hurt, because it does. I posted something I thought would encourage people [...]
Powerful video plus Free lesson plan from the “Wisdom: An Internet-Linked Unit Study.” Includes 4-Step lesson from the book PLUS memory verses, worksheets, and an excellent sermon outline by Dr Charles Stanley. 14 Pages PDF.
How do you tell if your church is slipping legalism or spiritual abuse? Pray for God to open your eyes and examine what you see. Do you see faith in God or dependency on church? Do you see goodness or strict compliance to church mandated convictions?
Letter from Wayne Jacobsen: I do appreciate your concern for me and your willingness to raise issues that have caused you concern. I know the way I relate to the church is a bit unconventional and some even call it dangerous. Believe me, I understand that concern because I used to think that way myself and even taught others to as well.
The curious thing about legalism is that you might look at a legalist and a person walking in grace and at times not be able to tell them apart. They could very well be doing the same exact things. The difference lies not on the outside but on the inside, in the realm of motivation. Why is he or she doing it? A person is a legalist, therefore, not necessarily because of what they do or do not doubt do, but because of why they do or don’t do it.
Jesus was not brought down by atheism and anarchy. He was brought down by law and order allied with religion, which is always a deadly mix. Beware those who claim to know the mind of God and are prepared to use force, if necessary, to make others conform…
I’m overwhelmed at the love and mercy in the sweet, compassionate comments from my last post My Story: Masked to Truefaced. Thank you so much for your kind words. My blog friends make my life brighter! Thank you for your unconditional love. (There is a difference between unconditional love and unconditional approval. You don’t have [...]
Christians who are passionate for God can be unaware of the critical need for people to be understood. Many of our brothers and sisters in Christ have deep emotional roots that go ignored. We all have a need to come to grips with the scars from our past, to be honest about our brokenness and become vulnerable and learn to grow through pain. We do this by being heard and being understood.
“What used to make us stumble, God can use to make us stand. What once made us bow our heads in shame, He can use for His glory.” ~ Joanna Weaver~ Having a Mary Spirit To stumble: to miss one’s step in walking or running; trip and almost fall. To walk unsteadily. To stand: to [...]
“Lower your expectations of earth. This isn’t heaven, so don’t expect it to be.” ~ Max Lucado ~ I attended a seminar in 1975 titled “Give Your Expectations to God.” I learned that you can’t be frustrated with people when you don’t expect anything from them. We choose to be irritated and upset with others. [...]